'I can't do it.' Sometimes we hear this before a child has even picked up the materials.
Instead of immediately reassuring them that they can do it, I like to consider how the adults around them respond to mistakes and unfamiliar challenges.
Let children see us learning
Resilience doesn't develop through being told to keep trying. Children need challenges that feel manageable, responsive support and repeated experiences of making progress.
Neuroplasticity describes the brain's capacity to change through experience. Practising new skills can support learning, particularly when children have opportunities to adjust, repeat and receive appropriate support.
I love encouraging educators to bring something into the playground that they are genuinely still learning to do.
Let's make this practical
What could you try tomorrow?
Choose a situation and turn the card over to reveal a practical idea.
IDEA 1A child says, 'I'm no good at this'Could the first step be smaller?Reveal the strategy
Find one achievable part of the task. Support the child to attempt that part, notice the effort and offer the next step only when they're ready.
Close strategyIDEA 2The child wants an adult to do everythingHow could we help without taking over?Reveal the strategy
Try doing the first part together, then allow the child to complete one manageable action independently. Offer choices and adequate time.
Close strategyIDEA 3Children are afraid to make mistakesWhat if the educator practises something new?Reveal the strategy
Take a yo-yo, spinning top, juggling balls or a cup-and-ball toy outside. Let children watch you miss, experiment, laugh and keep practising. Talk about what you'll change next time.
Close strategyI want children to see that learning isn't always neat. Educators who are willing to look a little silly can model something incredibly valuable.
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Let's look at this in practice
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Challenges should be achievable and supportive, not forced. Consider developmental differences, anxiety, disability and the child's own interests when adapting activities.
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